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For Maxine’s anxiety felt like a physical pain “where you can’t breathe”. Many women developed anxiety about health problems. Vikki Z said she “had a real problem with anxiety afterwards… It was as if my brain had changed its way of thinking. It was like I was always on high alert”. Michelle felt she lost confidence in trusting her own instincts about her body because she hadn’t been aware that her baby had died during her pregnancy. I am reminded how blessed I am as I look around and see other gifts of love that surround my family now.
Like you mentioned, grief doesn’t vanish with passing years. Memories may seem to fade away, but the fact that a whole new future ahead without father being around, haunts almost every often. And the last days of my father’s life my mom had a terrible fight with us and I blame her and myself.
But it shouldn’t, because they just don’t understand. They haven’t been through such a devastating loss. 11 years after my father’s death I still suffer, but my close friends don’t really see it. They can’t relate to the fact that on some days, the pain I feel is still as raw as the day it happened.
- Like I never left his side, he put up the best fight to stage 4 pancreas cancer and his fight is over.
- They haven’t been through such a devastating loss.
- I cried every night after he passed.
- It feels like he’s slipping out my fingers, and as the years pass, the memories fade a little more.
- I lost My Dad to Cancer 4 years ago, and there are still days that I miss him immensely.
They moved out of their home and invited us to stay with our entire extended families so we didn’t have to go back to a silent apartment which rang with our daughter’s absence. But our daughter lives in our hearts. We think of her a hundred times a day.
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I sit in my bedroom hoping that it is just some sick game and that he would come back but he doesn’t. Since he died, I haven’t exactly eaten much so I am extremely skinny, I still eat but my family try and make me eat more to put on a bit of weight but I really am trying. I’m starting to get better and I’m learning to cope. I make https://sober-house.org/ sure that I am open with my feelings so that it is easier for people to help me and to be able to talk to me without getting confused on what to say. Slowly but surely I’m learning how to cope and soon I hope that i will be better. About 4 months ago on the second of April my friend locally known as Mally got murdered in my area.
This is when my life changed forever, I worked in a hospital so I couldn’t comfort my mum at this time as I was a key worker and she was Covid positive. This killed me, and I live to regret that decision every single day.. But I didn’t think I would never have the chance to hug her again.
Thank you for sharing it really helps me understand my emotions better. My Dad died 30 years ago when I was 17. Similar to others, the feeling at the time was numb, surreal.
- Showing your emotions can give your child permission to also show and talk about how they feel.
- Just be thankful you had a parent or parents that loved you so much.
- We are all on the same road, just different stations.
- Live for the ones you have lost.
I want to thank you for this, I definitely relate to a lot of things, but above all, this gave me a bit of hope. I was told that time is a great healer, but actually that hasn’t worked for me. I have just got more used to the trauma and better at managing my emotions through age. I can’t put up pictures in my home of my Dad, the pain is still too difficult to bear. As a father has compassion on his children, so the LORD has compassion on those who fear him; Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. God stresses the importance of fathers in our lives.
Sharon’s husband found it hard when he was asked whether he had children.
I’m so very sorry for your loss. I’m 68 years old and I just lost my dad 4 weeks ago. I have been working 7 day weeks and I felt like I was grieving but continuing on, until tonite.
Today, 7 years and 6 months later, I’ve finally decided to throw out the shirt Toby was wearing when he died. I will never ever regret a single second I had with you and I cherish the memories even though I can’t share a lot of them, they comfort me and make me laugh and cry. I opened the notebook and the first thing I saw was my writing ‘There is nothing to stop you having an amazing life’. I was shocked, trying to process this – then I realised this was the notebook I had given you. Instead there was a flippant message written at 23.53 on 9th July – with a sign off message for your friends and online gaming friends, I assume.
I feel like I’ve lost my backbone, all my support. The trampoline that just kept bouncing my back up when I was down. But, writing letters and posting them makes me feel better, because I know it will get to her somehow. Deon’s dad was ringing me on FaceBook and he asked if i was home and i said yes and he said okay i will see you in 20 minutes. It felt like an hour but him and Deon’s brother kaiden arrived and he told me Deon was dead.
Finding support
Scottish Families Affected by Alcohol and Drugs is a national charity that supports anyone concerned about someone else’s alcohol or drug use in Scotland, including bereavement support. They have a telephone helpline and webchat on their website. Cruse provide practical information, advice and signposting on the many issues and procedures that face us after the death of someone close. If you need support or information about bereavement and grief,we have listed some other organisations below who might be able to help you. We feel that not enough was done to make sure Steven got help early on or even once his condition worsened.
They thought he would need dialysis cause he wasn’t going to the bathroom. He woke up, they removed the tubes. He was in the hospital for 5 days. His urine was good they took the catheter out on Thursday the 23rd.
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I send you my deepest condolences. I myself just lost my mother a couple of weeks ago. I took care of her for 20yrs and the last 7yrs her eco sober house ma condition worsened,of course I knew her time was coming but mom was a strong woman, and whatever mom said I believed no question asked!
My dad was married with a kid and a career by this age. I am single after two long relationships during a pandemic and have little hope of finding someone. I feel I’m not half the man my father was.
It all happened so fast, we couldn’t say goodbye and hospital visits were not allowed. It has now been nearly three months since he died, and I feel like my heart has been pulled out of me, I feel lifeless, but I have to continue. My father was everything to me, my friend, mentor, guide – imagine a world with no sky, that sums up my emotions.
- This is a meaningless concept for a bereaved parent, so try not to let others suggest that you should be ‘moving on’.
- Everything that I feel I should care about seems trivial and meaningless.
- I’d just give up everything to have my folks back alive again.
- Following my moms death my life went into complete and utter meltdown.
Things will never be okay, and I know that now. But I also know that as much as I feel alone, I am not. I have people who are willing to listen, willing to admit that they don’t know what I’m going through, what I’m feeling, but are willing to say I’m sorry and I’m here. Clearly, the world is not as predictable as I might like it to be, but I am making some sort of peace with that because I have to.
He seemed a little off and I asked him if he was ok and he said yeah, I’m ok. He got up from the table and was walking to the living room, he turned around and said he forgot his cane. I handed it to him and watched him walk away and then I went to my side of the house. I sent her down to see what it was she yelled up grandpa can’t breathe. When I went down stairs he was sitting in his chair and my mom was standing next to him.